Seventy two days. That is how long I have been blessed to be your mother. It still seems so surreal at times. Just the other day, I walked you down the hallway to your bedroom to change your diaper, and I looked at you and said “I’m your mommy! Can you believe it? I’m a mom! And you are my daughter!” You just looked at me and gave me that half smile you always give and let out a coo. Of course it was totally adorable!
These are the days that I have dreamed of for so long. These are the days that I used to fear I would never get to experience or cherish. Being a lesbian, conception obviously was going to be a little more tricky for us. There are so many different ways that lesbian couples choose to conceive and it doesn’t always involve a fertility clinic. I, on the other hand, am so grateful that we had the opportunity to use a fertility clinic to help us in conceiving our little miracle.
At this time last year we were starting our FET process to have one of our frosty little embryos placed. We had no idea that Alyssa would be the result and I would be lying if I said we were feeling pretty hopeless after four failed cycles. I was almost at the point of taking a break from the “TTC” world and then she came along and we were elated. After suffering from two biochemical pregnancies, it seemed too good to be true. It wasn’t, though! And at 40 weeks and 3 days, Alyssa was born! She weighed a healthy 7 lbs 7.3 oz and measured 19.68″ long.
Being her mommy is one of the greatest gifts that could’ve happened to me/us. Her other mom (Melissa) loves her so much. It’s adorable to see the way she interacts with Alyssa. There was no doubt in my mind that she would be nothing but a fantastic mother and she has proven that plus some so far. I think that we definitely make a good team and I am so proud of us for all that we have accomplished on this new journey. It has been a rollercoaster of a ride but we wouldn’t have it any other way!
In two days I will return back to work after having the last 10 weeks and 3 days off with Alyssa on maternity leave. I know that I will be extremely sad not being able to be with her as much as I have been. I am so glad that she will be staying home with her other mommy instead of being put in daycare. Melissa quit her daytime job at Enterprise and will be staying home with Alyssa during the day. I will be working at a new job during the week (Monday – Friday) and Melissa will continue working at night at the casino. I feel that making this transition will be a little rough at first but I’m confident that we will figure things out. I have really been trying to stay organized at home to help with bills and keeping all of our schedules on track. My mom has been an extremely big help with Alyssa, especially in the beginning days when us new mothers we’re trying to navigate through life with a newborn. Good thing she had lots of practice with six kids of her own! It also helps to have an extra set of hands to help with a fussy baby, too!
Fun facts about 10 week old Alyssa:
• She loves her hands and chewing on them.
• She smiles a lot when people talk to her.
• She tries to talk and coo all of the time.
• Her swing is her favorite (vibrates, sings, and swings! – what’s not to like?).
• Whenever she is in her swing, she kicks her blankets off.
• She loves being swaddled, especially if she is crabby! Puts her right to sleep.
• She can almost hold her head up (still somewhat wobbly)
• If she doesn’t have someone sitting in the backseat on car rides, she fusses and cries.